Its our Right!

Andy Rooney says: I don't believe in Santa Claus, but I'm not going to sue somebody for singing a Ho-Ho-Ho song in December. I don't agree with Darwin , but I didn't go out and hire a lawyer when my high school teacher taught his theory of evolution. Life, liberty or your pursuit of happiness will not be endangered in ...any way because someone says a 30-second prayer before a football game. So what's the big deal?It's not like somebody is up there reading the entire Book of Acts. They're just talking to a God they believe in and asking him to grant safety to the players on the field and the fans going home from the game. But i...t's a Christian prayer, some will argue. Yes, and this is the United States of America , and Canada , countries founded on Christian principles. According to our very own phone book, Christian churches outnumber all others better than 200-to-1.So what would you expect -- somebody chanting Hare Krishna? If I went to a football game in Jerusalem ,I would expect to hear a Jewish prayer. If I went to a soccer game in Baghdad, I would expect to hear a Muslim prayer. If I went to a ping pong match in China ,I would expect to hear someone pray to Buddha. And I wouldn't be offended. It wouldn't bother me one bit.When in Rome .....But what about the atheists? Is another argument. What about them? Nobody is asking them to be baptized. We're not going to pass the collection plate. Just humour us for 30 seconds. If that's asking too much, bring a Walkman or a pair of ear plugs. Go to the bathroom. Visit the concession stand. Call your lawyer! Or, just exercise their right to leave this country! Unfortunately, one or two will call their lawyer.One or two will tell thousands what they can and cannot do. I don't think a short prayer at a football game is going to shake the world's foundations. Christians are just sick and tired of turning the other cheek while our courts strip us of all our rights. Our parents and grandparents taught us to pray before eating, to pray before we go to sleep. Our Bible tells us to pray without ceasing.

Now a handful of people and their lawyers are telling us to cease praying. God, help us. And if that last sentence offends you, well, just sue me. The silent majority has been silent too long. It's time we tell that one or two who scream loud enough to be heard that the vast majority doesn't care what they want! It is time that the majority rules! It's time we tell them, "You don't have to pray; you don't have to say the Pledge of Allegiance; you don't have to believe in God or attend services that honor Him. That is your right, and we will honor your right; but by golly you are no longer going to take our rights away. We are fighting back, and we WILL WIN!" God bless us one and all...Especially those who denounce Him, God bless America and Canada , despite all our faults, we are still the greatest nations of all. God bless our service men who are fighting to protect our right to pray and worship God

Sarah Smiley: Im Just Saying

This is a great (and HILARIOUS) Book & you all should read it. Since I know that not all of you will. I decided to copy this and replace her husbands name with mine because I find it so humorous and I think many of you will as well =))

Did you know that as recently as the 1970's, it was believed that a service member's spouse's participation was a factor for considering military promotions?

Ah, but here's the real shocker: according to some people, this practice continues today, albeit in a more discreet, elusive sort of way. Don't believe it? Don't worry. Im not sure I believe it either. I mean, Dustins made it this far, hasnt he?

Even so, here is what a retired Navy reader recently sent me via email after one of my pinger-pointing columns about miltary medicene.

A word to the wise: in my day not all the inputs considered by promotion boards were written down... you may wat to wash soiled linen within he service in order to preclude a future whine about the promotion process.

I receive this type of sentiment a lot, actually. One of the most frequently asked questions about my column is " Your husband lets you write that?" Coincidentally, there is also a heated debate on Miltary.com's message board titled "Reflection of our spouses?" where military spouses are arguing back and forth about whether or not our actions-our lives-can affect our spouse's image within the miltary.

To put an end to the bickering, I've decided to pose a little scientific study. Let's say I asked this questionm, "If I, Alisheau Klopfer, am merely a reflection on my spouse and not a spereate human being, who by the way, happens to be a civilian...," (remember this is very scientific) "then it is safe to assume the following:

David Klopfer forgets to shave his legs every other day.

David Klopfer dyed his hair blonde, but thought it looked fake, so hes gone back to brown.

David Klopfer wishes he could remember that it takes two thirds cup of water to make microwave macaroni and cheese, but, alas, he has to read the small print on the back of the box every single time.

David Klopfer gets a giant blister on his right toe when he wears his favorite red high heels.

David Klopfer always gets the loud shopping cart with the lopsided wheels.

David Klopfer still hasnt figured out how to do the "self check-out" at Wal-mart.

David Klopfer is tryint to lose weight, but a love for chocolate frosting is proving that to be difficult.

David Klopfer rarely showers before he takes the kids to school in the morning.

David Klopfer is afraid of mice.

David Klopfer nearly threw out his shoulder tryin on one of those fancy girdle with the nice new name, "Spanx."

David Klopfers greatest fear is being trapped in a public bathroom stall because he'd rather sit there and starve than crawl on the floor underneath to get out.

David Klopfers favorite spectator sport is bull riding, although this has less to do with the sport and more to do with the riders.

David Klopfer is trying to cut back to only two Diet Dr. Peppers a day, which is only causing him to eat more chocolate frosting.

When David Klopfer is nervous, he grinds his teet so hard that his nose gets numb.

David Klopfer feels cranky in the morning if his pants are too tight, his underwear to large, or if his hair looks like someone hit him over the head with a frying pan.

David Klopfewr mistakenly believes he has a good voice when he sings, "Gilligan's Island" in the shower.

Nothing says home to David Klopfer like a nice pair of leopard print slippers an d flannel pajamas.

David Klopfer once tried to count to a million and threw up.

And Last, David Klopfer married a fantastic spouse!

So Judging by our little expeiment, I think it is safe to say just one thing: David Klopfers wife has issues.

As for all this reflecting on our spouse stuff? Well, I just hope the reverse isnt true (That our husbands reflect upon us), because that would mean that I'm terrible with directions and that I have a five o'clock shadow by noon.

You smiled atleast once, admit it =))

Can't Let Go.

War is not nice-Barbara Bush

I read this story in a book tonight and it brought tears to my eyes.

"I had said goodbye to my husband, Joe, so often, but this time was different.

We now had our first child. After nights of soul-searching and what-ifs, we made the difficult decision that Joe would go by himself to Alabama for the six-month training coursem and I would stay behind with our new son. It was important that I hold onto my teaching position near our home at Fort Hood, plus we were part of a stron network of friends whom I could count on to see me through the rough spots.

On Joe's last evening at home-always a melancholy time-I bathed little Joey, got him into his sleeper and was heading to the bedroom when Joe gently touched me on the shoulder. Lifting the baby from my arms, he said he wanted to tuck Joey in tonight.

They headed down the ahll, and I busied myself with meaningless tasks, expecting Joe to emerge from the bedroom within a few minutes. A half hour went by, and still he had not come back. Figuring he was having trouble getting our son to fall asleep, I tiptoed to the baby's room and peeked into the dimly lit room.

Sitting in the rocking chair, moving slowly back and forth, was my husband, stifling quiet sobs. He was holding our sleeping infant in his arms as though he would never let go.

I whispered, "Honey, what can I do?"

His pained eyes met mine, and after a moment he mumbled, "I just cant put him down"

That night, we stood oveer Joey's crib, holding each other, consoling ourselves and saying over and over that we would make it through this separatin and be together again soon.

Joey is six now, and he has a four-year-old brother named Jack. There have been many farewells since that night, yet my military hero still fights back tears when it's time to leave once again in service to his country and give his boys that last, long hug good-bye." --Julie Angelo

 Now maybe its the hormones, or that we are rapidly growing towared our time to go through just this same thing, but my main cause for loving it so is that I just had a talk with my husband. My exact wording was "Can I please have DAVID for a day and not BM1?" I dont doubt that he loves me and our kids with everything he has. I dont doubt that it is killing him  inside to know that he may miss the birth of our child, or that when he comes home our "baby" will be 6 months old. I just need to SEE it. I realize this is what he's trained to do((holding back the emotion to "do his job")). For him it is more than just "being a guy". I dont need to worry that he is going into a war zone "worrying" about us. But, having said all that, I need to see some of the emotion sometimes. While I know it in my heart, when it comes to doing this "alone" for a year, I need to SEE it. I want him to be angry, sad....scared. I want him to share the deepest fears he holds inside about the next year of our lives. Maybe I havnt been so wonderful at sharing mine with him. Maybe deep down the two of us are trying to "protect" the other, and be strong for the other. When in reality, what we want is to know how much the other HATES this with every fiber of our being. Can I share my anger and my fears with my husband without it effecting his state of mind going into war? Absolutely. Its like he has two different sections to his brain that he can turn on and off depending on the occasion. If he needs to be the big strong tuff guy, he will be. If he needs to be the mushy romantic caring guy I fell in love with, he will be. I on the other hand am all one person, all the time.

By holding back how scared, nervous, angry, or sad we both are with this situation are we really "helping" the other in any way? I dont think so. It would make me feel tremendously better if he would just come to me and say "Baby, I hate this." and again while I know he does, I just want to hear it. I know he prides himself in being strong for me, and I love him for that. But, am I crazy for WANTING him to break down?

Oh my, how will I ever get through this? It was overwhelming enough to know that I would be without the love of my life, my best friend, for a year, and now to know I may be alone giving birth, and that our first child together will not know his/her father until they are 6 months old. Its almost unbearable. There hasnt been a single day that has gone by that I havnt broken down. Thats my way of "dealing" with this I suppose.

Its the strangest thing ya know? To finally find the man that makes me happy, honestly and truely happy, and then to have this man, I must adapt my life to being without him, to have him. =//

I should be the happiest woman alive!

Where to start..?
I am getting married in a little over 2 weeks, to the most amazing man in the world. David & I have been through so much in the short 2 years we have been together and knowing that I am marrying this man gives me indescribable feelings.
We just found out that we are pregnant! I have yet to go to the doctor, but we will get there. I am happy, so happy, but Im worried, very worried. As most of you know we have 3 little girls already, and David is leaving for Afghanistan verryyy soon. I pray every day that he will be able to come home for the birth, but even so he will have to leave again, and return when the baby is almost 6 months old. Thats depressing. I have some of the greatest friends here and I have no doubt they will go above and beyond to help me out while David is gone, because they do it while he is home. I just havnt let all of this hit home yet I guess.
We bought a new car, with 3 rows. =)) & its MOMMYS CAR!
Yet somehow, I am not excited, well lets say, I dont FEEL excited about anything. I am just...Bluh. Maybe it all hasnt sank in, maybe its hormones, I dont know. I wish I did. I know I am happy with everything, except him leaving. I am just not excited, not as much as I feel I should be I guess. Maybe it doesnt feel real yet?
When will it?
Maybe it is all just too bittersweet? Yes, we are getting married, but then he leaves for a year. Yes we are having a baby, but he is going to miss so much. I am horrible, absolutely horrible at finding the positives in life. To most people my life seems so perfect. I have an amazing man to call mine, 3 beautiful healthy kids who dont want for a thing in life, and one more on the way, a great life.....Why am I the only one who cant see just that?

Mrs. Dawson

Brittany, because I love you =))

Photoshop

                  

The product of my bordem! =))

I am teaching myself how to use Photoshop.

This is the way I keep myself busy and not thinking about all the craziness that has been happening.

I made these for some of my best friends!

Whine, Whine, Whine.

I feel like thats all I do lately. I try so hard not to. We are supposed to be the strong confident ones. Yadda freakin YA! That time will come but right now I want to let it all out!
I should atleast update that things are going better with the bestie's husband. I feel like we get along much better and are so much more comfortable with each other! So thats a definate plus. Helps releive some stress.
I feel like there is just too much in my head to go on about right now. I swear eventually I will find the time to "let it all out"! Myself and some of my best friends are preparing ourselves for deployments and such and things are....Crazy. I want to be there for them so much. I want to help them. I want to be there when they need a shoulder, an ear, a hand. At the same time...I feel the need to keep to myself and...WHINE!

...its the life we live...

So I know that along with the Navy comes CHANGE, and I hate it. Not only the change that comes along with our marriages and families but with our friends as well. Being in a commited relationship or a marriage makes friendships a little harder sometimes, I think. You can get along with someone sooo well, but if their SO doesnt like you or your SO it can make hanging out really hard.
So yes, if you're wondering, this rambling is going somewhere. My very very good friend, probably the best friend I have, has her hubby back now! I am so happy for her, I know how much deployments freakin blow, for lack of a better word, and how much simpler life can get when you have your hubby back. & Yes, I can be realistic, I know that time with friends goes down when your husband comes back, especially after 8 months. Its not that I even expect all of her time anymore, although Iv come to be pretty used to it, lol. I just feel like....well to put it simply..I feel like her husband hates me, although Im not sure why. He hated me while he was gone but I thought that was only because he had been gone so long and I was always with his wife. Today is the first time I met him, and I thought we got along well until he decided against her idea of coming over to my house =((. I could just be paranoid and he may have just wanted to be HOME since he has spent so little time there lately. Then I heard of them going to another friends, or out with another friend, later that day and that made me a little sadder. Yes, maybe Im slightly jealous. She was my first REAL friend out here. Its not like I want to be in the middle of their marriage. Its not even that Im complaining about not seeing her. Im just upset that I feel like he would rather they not see me. Im not sure if any of this even makes sense. I can see why people think we really are "together" lol I sound like her nagging wife! lol
I guess the point in this is that, I feel like her hubby hates me, and doesnt want her around me, and Im not entirely sure if thats going to change how good our friendship has been or not. Just stinks.
On a positive note for today I got to see My Brittany! Oh how Iv missed her! I guess I should now call her MRS. DAWSON! Shes such an amazing friend to just, talk with, have a good laugh with! Shes always my upper! =)). & DAvid REALLY like hanging out with RJ and Sam as well! I was so glad they got along! I think David needs some new friends, that I approve of! lol. Sam is one of the greatest, and I "think" her hubby likes me, or can atleast tolerate me! =)) lol.
Oh geez, So i guess its ups and downs, Maybe it will all work itself out in the end.
We are so close to going home to Indiana, Im not sure that I am excited though! =//. I like getting to see everyone but I want to spend a very SMALL amount of time there. I love my friends and family but I LOVE BEING HOME, MY HOME. We will be there long enough to throw Madisyn a bday party and thats about it. I cant believe my baby will be THREE! Ahhh where did the time go!?
After the bday party the girls will be staying at their daddys house for a few weeks. Im not happy about it, but I am trying to think on the positive side that it will give David and I some time together before he leaves for a year =((. We are going to get MARRIED, and take our own minivacation//honeymoon =)) & buy a new car while the girls are away! lol
Oh so much going on lately I could go on forever, But Ill save you the boredm =))

Its been a while..

                                                                             

Iv spent so much time working on buttons and headers and signatures for some of the other ladies that I have barely had time to post! I enjoy doing it though and from what they tell me, they like them, so its fun, and rewarding!

Things on the homefront have been going well. A few Pre-Deployment spats, but hey what can ya do!?

Mr. Anthony Martinez & the USS Ramage are due to come in tomorrow! Im SO Super excited for my bestie, Sarah! =)). Its been a long time coming and like all of us, it hasnt been easy on her! I hope tomorrow becomes the THIRD best day of your life! [Falling behind having Alex, and getting married lol]

So between helping Sarah get ready for homecoming, and preparing ourselves for deployment things have been crazy! Iv been occupying myself as much as possible with some of my own things. I have started selling AVON! Im excited about it. Iv got a pretty good list of clients started =)) My website is YourAVon.com/AlisheauWAlters if you want to do some ordering yourself! & Also, like I said, I have been working on graphics and things for some of the girls.

David reenlisted on Wed. I am so proud of him. Minus the part where he didnt tell me I would have to stand up in front of everyone and receive an "appreciation certificate" I could have died! lol It was a good feeling though. I brought it home and framed it! lol Now he will never forget that I am "appreciated"! lol. We feel that so little in our life as Navy wives that I actually enjoy seeing it hanging on the wall!
I feel like Im rambling. I just wanted to catch things up so I dont get too far behind! BAck to working on more buttons for my loves =))

-I- h-A-te you

David is leaving to go IA and "defend democracy". Yes, I understand that it's necessary. Yes, I understand that I knew this was part of the package, that it was a trade off... I am marrying someone who deploys frequently, he married someone with an unhealthy obsession with facebook. I know. But freakin hell, it seems like he just got back! Why are we now finding out that he'll be leaving again? They gave us all of 2 months notice. Do you know how hard it is to prepare to live as half yourself for a YEAR, in 2 months time? We have soo much to get done. His divorce still isnt finalized, we have a court date set for August 18th, and Im praying we walk out of there with a divorce decrea. I know David and the [X] have been seperated for years now, but Im still not giddy about the idea of getting married just days after his DIVORCE is finalized. I guess its just the "sound" of that, that I dont like. =// I wanted to choke her when I found out they were still "legally married" after we were...well, I WAS, under the impression they had been divorced for 3 years now. In all senses of the word he has been "MINE" for 2 years now, and thats how it will stay, I have no doubt, but I cant help but be irritated by the way things are coming together. I already gave up my big wedding, for a smaller one [which was fine], and now I have been reduced to "just doing it". How we are married isnt as important as the meaning behind it, but...How else do I explain it except its every girls dream....I guess thats the sacrafice of a military wife.
So, not only do we have to put a rush on getting married, we have to put a rush on buying a new car. We planned to buy one early next year and now we have to buy it within the next month. We also need a new laptop so he can take ours with him. David is re-enlisting next week. We have to get his Page 2s, & Power of Attorney in order. We will then have to go get IDs and deal with insurance for the girls and I. Next will be putting base stickers ont the new car, and then getting the RPP set up on our house. AHHH!
After all this is said and done David has brought up the two of us taking a vacation, or honeymoon by that time I guess. We dont know where, or for how long, but gosh doesnt that sound amazzzing?! I really hope we find the time to fit that in our schedule, but in the big picture it is coming in last.
David keeps talking about all the money we will save with him going IA, how much more the paycheck will be, yadda yadda yadda. While all of this is pleseant news, I would trade it all to have this next year with him HOME rather than in a war zone. =((.
Im sure it sounds as though I am rambling. All of these thoughts are still so jumbled in my head. I have every intention of sitting down making a TO DO list that must be completed before he leaves in OCT.!
Ugh, just the sound of OCTOBER makes my stomach turn.
I just got him back. I swear I did. & This is where I stop, before I start to sound like the "anti military wife" and ramble on and on about the Navy and Chain of Command and so on and so forth.
I guess after all is said & done, the title of this Blog could not ring more true than it does at this very moment. =//


I'm both sad and irate all in one.

New Signature.

Another Test. =)). Im having too much fun with this.
I think Ill keep this one for a while though, I promise!

...My Oh My...

So many things going on. Where do I even start.

I have been so busy teaching myself more about blogging, photoshop, and html. Iv mainly been using it to keep myself busy and not think so much.

Just a few days ago we found out that David will be going IA to Afghanistan in just 2 and a half months. I really dont want to go into how I feel about that right now. I have a feeling I will come off as the "anti-military spouse". Some things are better left unsaid, for now.

As far as the effect this will have: We have 2 months to get married, buy a new car, new laptop, get Page 2s, power of attorney, IDs, insurance, RPP, and HOPEFULLY take a small vacation, just the two of us =). I know there is so much more to be done before he goes and listing everything would take me days. Lets just say, AHHHHHHH, I need 5 more brains and 12 more hands to handle it sanely. =(.

Im sure I will be back very soon to whine and moan about this IA Business. Just thought Id make a short post to update things.

Toddler Prison.

Before I begin to spill my feelings on this subject I just want to say that my soon to be hubby is an amazing man. He is hard woking, loving, sweet and ....just honestly one the the nicest guys you will ever meet. He is a wonderful father, SO, Sailor, Son, & Uncle. I wouldnt trade my life with him for the world. I post this reminder because I am extremelly upset at the moment and I dont want anything I say to come off as a bad impression of the kind of man he is.

I, however, am stuck in TODDLER PRISON!!

Im not sure he totally understands the effects that spending all day, every day with a 6, 4, & 2 year old can have on a person. I have very little patience and very little sanity left.

As many of you know I have never spent a day of my life since I was 15 NOT working. Before I met David I worked every day of my life, most times 12 hours a day. I had my own house, car, and took care of my kids on my own. Ever since David & I have been together I have not worked a single day. All of my time as been spent as a housewife/stay at home mom. I love and appreciate my husband very much for giving me this opportunity. I am glad that I am able to see my kids so much more than I did when I worked my ass off every day. I love that I will have the chance to send them off to school in the morning and see them off the bus in the afternoon. So many parents miss out on these little things so often these days.

You may ask then, "If she is so appreciative, why the rambling post of Toddler Prison?"
I love my kids dearly, but God made me with a very, very, verrrrry low amount of patience. I am easily irritated throughout the day. & as some of you know a 6, 4, & 2 year old can wear that down pretty thin.

I have been in VA for about a year and a half and recently my soon to be hubby started complaining that I didnt want to go make any friends. I didnt feel the need to make any friends, Im not a freindly person, I seldom get along with groups of females because there  is just too much drama to be had. Sooo, I did meet a few wives here and there and I love them ALL Dearly! Sometimes I wonder how I lived without them. The majority of our "getting to know each other" stages were done so while the hubby was underway so there were no problems then. I have not spent a night out, a day out, from my family although Iv made these friends, while the hubby is home. I am a mom and I have no interest in being out partying & leaving him to tend to the kids. I have though, asked him to watch them for THIRTY MINUTES to AN HOUR so that I can go with one of the girls tanning. My hubby has been home from his underway for 10 days. Of these 10 days I have been tanning 3 times. THREE.  So in 3 days time he has watched our girls, plus Alex (18 months), for a total of MAYBE 2 hours. & let me just add that these 3 days were NOT consecutive. Other than going tanning, I do not LEAVE MY HOUSE at all, for ANY amount of time, unless I go sit out back, and even then my time is spent making sure the kids dont run away or kill one another.

So then I noticed something was wrong with him today just by the short, evasive texts I was getting. I asked what I did...& I got "Iv been feeling like you pay more attention to me when I'm at work and when I get home I get nothing except for "watch the kids" even though Iv been at work all day. Atleast you get some help. Im just frustrated with it." I am not completely cold hearted. I do understand that he works hard for our family EVERY DAY. On the THREE occasions I have asked him to watch the girls I have first: fed them, bathed them, and put them to bed, & put the baby gate up on their room. So in all fairness he has really only had Alex to tend to and there is a playpen that He can be put in and WAS put in when we got home each time. One of the times I bathed the kids, fed them and then he was asked to put them in bed, (which is pretty simple) and put the gate up. How then should I have to feel bad?

He makes it sound as though we have a revolving door and he walks in from work & I walk out.

I know that I signed up for some hard times when I chose this life, but I DID NOT sign up for having absolutely no time to myself with out 3 screaming kids in my ear. I do not think that 30 minutes 3 days a week is asking for too much. I do value what little sanity I have left, and if I cant have just this little bit of me time...said sanity will not be long lived.

Each of these times that I have went tanning I have first let him know or asked if it would be okay and his response each time " Yea sure baby go ahead, I dont mind watching the kids." --((On another note, its not WATCHING THE KIDS when they are yours, Its being a father!)) I spend all day every day here with the kids, how am I not allowed 30-60 minutes away, without a guilt trip from him!? I dont do it EVERYDAY & I finish things up around here and leave very little for him to deal with when I do leave the house.

I dont feel like he is being fair at all. Is a relationship not supposed to be "meet in the middle". I feel like Im giving my all to make him happy and getting nothing in return. Yes, he goes to work everyday, and works hard to provide for our family and protect our country, but Im not in this relationship for the paycheck he brings home. That cant be his only form of "give" in this relationship. I know what it is like to work and provide for my kids. Im not a spoiled wife who doesnt appreciate what her husband does for her, but I need more. I need to be able to hold on to my sanity. He has never asked, but once, to go out with the guys. & He did go when he wanted to that time. Im not even asking for time to go "hang out" with the girls, I just want an hour to go TANNING! UGHH, how is that asking for too much. I cant bring myself to understand. He acts like I use that revolving door and toss him a "to-do" list on my way out. =(

It seems to me that he wont be {Happy} unless I spend all day cleaning and cooking and tending to the kids needs. Wait for him to come home, Pick up after the trail he leaves through the house when he arrives. Serve him dinner, watch whatever he wants to watch on tv, and then come to bed at 7 or 8pm when he is ready, [give him what he wants] & then let him roll over and go to sleep. =//

Yes, I realize this is what every man would love. Yes, I realize all women think they are crazy.

I do clean all day, most days. Our house stays VERY clean. [I suffer from OCD]-&  I say suffer because it does get on MY nerves sometimes as well as everyone around me. ((Today I organized my BANDAIDS!)) Do I move everything everyday and whiteglove my house? NO. But it does stay clean and neat and everything is in its place. He never has to do a thing, except pick up his own clothes and put them in the basket, which if you follow my facebook posts you know he RARELY DOES. He does take the trash out MOST DAYS & On occasion before we got our dishwasher he did do the dishes.-RARELY. I do make dinner on most every night, excpet lately because A trip to the grocery store is desperately needed but he has the car all day at work so I never have time to go.  & Im sorry dear but I am NOT tired at 7 or 8 pm. Exhausted? Yes! REady to Relax? Yes. REady to close my eyes and fall asleep? No. I do try to come up and lay with him until he falls asleep and most times I end up on the computer in bed because I am just so bored laying here....What else am I going to do?

I have no arguement against giving him what he wants, we will leave that one alone =)

It just seems that he pushed and pushed for me to make friends, and now that I have, He hates me for it.

Maybe Hate is too strong of a word =//.

I dont know how to feel about this. I dont know how to fix this. I can not just give up every second of my life to taking care of this family and not having a single solitary moment to myself. I cant do it. He has to meet me in the middle. There has to be an agreement that can be made. Im not sure what else I can do. I feel like Im coming way past the middle by putting the kids in bed before I even ask to leave.

ADVICE LADIES PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE.

Footsteps at the Door

Another sleepless night for me

Alone upon our bed

I see again his every move

And those last words he said.

So proud he looked in uniform

Convinced that he was right

He had to go, for duty called

There was a war to fight.

Those last few days before he left

I hid the pain inside

We talked and loved and even joked

He never knew I cried.

And when the dreaded moment came

He kissed me tenderly.

His eyes met mine, and then he said,

"I'll be all right, you'll see."

I tried to smile and nod my head

Afraid to let him see

The terror that I feared if he

Did not come back to me.

I see him as he walked away

I tried to say 'good-bye'

But words were trapped within my throat

All I could do was cry.

The weeks have stretched now into months

And every night I pray

That God will keep him in his care

And bring him home one day.

At last I drift off into sleep

In dreams I see him more

I turn around and smile to hear

His footsteps at the door.

Restless I sleep, and then I wake

Not opening my eyes

I move my hand to reach for him

But no one near me lies.

I will not give in to despair

With each new day I'll cope

For I know he would want me to

Be brave and live with hope.

I hear the voices loud and strong

Who criticize the war

While yelling men are fools to go

They stay on freedoms shore.

A man who cowers under fear

Will die a thousand deaths

While men like mine for freedom fight

And offer their last breaths.

I hope perhaps in fifty years

When men remember war

They won't forget the wives who dreamed

Of footsteps at the door

Where do I begin?

I originally planned on my next blog post being about My Wedding Day, but that will not be the case because there is more that I need to rant and rave about before we can go back to the happy place. Where do I even start to explain this one? Tracy & I met in kindergarden, she has literally been my best friend all my life. She has an older sister and a younger brother that I consider nothing less than my own. She called me today to tell me that Scott, her..OUR Younger Brother had been arrested. I freaked, instant reaction. He is 15, freaking 15. As the story goes on, He stabbed someone. From hearing this, Im not sure what to think. He is not the kind of boy that walks around talking about stabbing people for the hell of it because he thinks he sounds cool. So Im thinking..why? The situation--A few blocks from his house at 3am, a couple of boys pull up in a truck with things like Brass Knuckles, Baseball Bats, ect. & start the fight. Being in Virginia I have not seen him, but from Tracys description he is pretty messed up himself from them hitting him, at some point in this Scott stabbed one of the boys twice. (Once in the shoulder blade, once in the kidney). I will add that the boy Scott stabbed is 17, several inches taller than him, and carrying a baseball bat. I have no choice than to believe that he stabbed him in self defense. Hes a Baby..Hes my little brother. He wouldnt do this for a thrill.

Now, Scott is the only one sitting in Juvi awaiting to start trial on Tuesday. While the one boy is out running free and the second is laying in the hospital. Let me just say, I do NOT feel sorry for this little bastard. I am not a completely cold hearted bitch so Ill explain that a little. These boys have been "picking on" Scott for about 6 months now. Starting fights, breaking out Moms dining room window, the cops have been called and the wonderful police officers of Clay County say, "We have no physical proof that it was these boys. There is nothing we can do." Our local police department is full of a bunch of low life pricks who should be locked up themselves, or at the least their children are the scum of Brazils streets and should be locked up. So this boy that is laying in the hospital, I have no pity for. There were only a few choice ways for this situation end, and by not acting his age and gaining a little self respect, atleast enough to stop picking on a 15 year old, he choose this ending. I am not ignorant and I am in no way saying that what Scott did was right! I do not know why he had the knife in the first place and that question will be answered soon enough, but I 100% believe that he USED IT in self defense.

I am ...partially numb about this whole situation. He's just a baby, He should not have a reason to feel like he needs to carry a knife, he shouldnt have to worry about being jumped in this backwoods, worthless, hell whole of a town. I remember when his biggest problem in the world was that Scooby Doo wasnt on Tv when he wanted it to be. =((. I feel so helpless, although I know even if I were there I couldnt do anything for him. He should be home with his mom, studying, playing video games. Why do kids grow up so fast?  Why is fighting such a big part of life? What does it prove? Whyyyyyy

I hate today, in so many ways. I hate it.

My First Award.

Im feel like Im still getting the hang of this blogging thing, and sometimes I feel like I ramble..too Much. Yet today Im feeling extremely proud of my Ramblings that I have been given the --One Lovely Blog-- "pass along" award! <3.
I havent been blogging long, but it helps knowing that people do find my goings on ammusing =))
& It is definately an insentive to keep blogging!!
Miss Brittany over at My Life As A Sailors Princess gave me this award. It took a lot of learning to figure out how to "pass it along", most of my problems were due to my proudest blonde moments, and she may now be regretting ever giving it to me! =)) haha.
Now I believe I have caught on to how this works. I will now share 7 totally random things about myself and pass this award on to 9 fellow bloggers, and maybe brighten their day a little too. =))

One.

My Family [My very soon to be Hubby, and our 3 girls] mean more to me than ANYTHING in this world. They are my true definiton of HAPPY!

Two.

I actually find myself enjoying Navy life sometimes. yes I miss him oh so much when  he is away, and I complain about the random down sides on occasion, but all in all the Navy has given us this life that we lead, it has enabled us to take care of our family, our kids. Although nothing it gives us will compare to what it takes away...I am still very thankful everyday for what it does give in return.

Three.

I have found myself on facebook wayy too much recently! I used to stay downstairs and watch the *millions* of shows I had recording, now I sit upstairs on the laptop & my DVR has gone crazzzy.

Four.

This should not even be number 4 buuut, I plan to write a whole rambling Blog about it later, sooo Number 4--I will be Mrs. David Andrew Klopfer in 6 months! ahhhh!

Five.

I bounce between wanting a baby, and feeling like I couldnt possibly handle any more a LOT. =//

Six.

I am soo tired of being sick, its ridiculous. I seem to be sick like..Once a month, at the least. Its depressing.

Seven.

I got amazingly good news from my doctor yesterday! =))

I am passing this on to:

1. Life of a Navy Wife

2.A Sailors Babie

3.Proud Navy Wife

4.My Career as a Sailors Heart

5.Married To A Sailor

6.A Little Pink in a World of Camo

7.Being The Wife of a Wounded Marine

8.A Day in the Life of a Navy Wife

9.Cosmetology & Combat Boots

The Love

There are so many things going through my head right now, I dont know where to begin.
The main thing on my mind is this amazzzzing feeling I have just by the sight of my hubby laying next to me. THis last underway lasted about 3 weeks, but it was the longest 3 weeks ever! When he leaves for these short underways I have mixed emotions. At first its sort of ..Yay, I get to have the car, I can get out of the house, but when it comes down to it I dont want him to go. I miss him like crazy. Someone asked me recently, "What makes him so special?" & you know Iv thought about it so much since then. I cant quite put my finger on it, but this man is just ..so amazing. The love he gives me, the feelings I feel when I think about him//see him//hear his voice on the phone, these are Once in a lifetime feelings. After three weeks of not being able to hold him or kiss him, It felt so wonderful to have his arms around me. Just the sight of him standing on the ship when they pulled in gave me butterflies. It was like homecoming all over again! I love this man with every thing I have! They way I feel about him, the way he makes me feel, Its just unexplainable. We bicker, we argue very rarely, but My gosh the good out weighs the bad in sOOO Maany ways!
He came home today with the news that he was asked to go IA. I cried, I got mad, we talked about it. He doesnt want to go, I dont want him to go, there..we agree.
I would understand if a part of him wanted to go, thats his job, his duty, its what he signed up for. I would support, love, and wait for him, for an eternity if thats what it took to have him home safe again! Do i want my husband gone for a year? ABSOLUTELY NOT! But I would never, never, be unfaithful, or walk away from him. What we have is too amazing to pass up just because we have to be apart for a year. That year apart would be sooo hard, but in the end I believe we would come out stronger and heck, a year apart is nothing compared to the MANY MANY MANY we have left together! Im not as terrified of the time apart as I am, WHERE HE WOULD BE, and WHAT HE WOULD BE DOING. That, however, is depressing and we will not go into that! Anyway, he doesnt want to go, Im hoping since he isnt jumping up and down with his hands in the air saying "pick me, pick me" that they will find someone else! I dont want anyone elses hubby forced away either but...dang it I choose to be selfish in this case =)) haha.
OKay sooo other than all this military hoobla, what else is there to ramble about? Well for the first time in a very long time we have all three of our girls together. Our family is complete, its only for a short time but its sooo nice! Tomorrow we are doing family pictures on the beach, and tooooo excited about this! A wonderful Lady and fellow wife is going to be our photgrapher! Judging by her work Iv seen thus far, she is amazing at what she does! These will be our first pictures of ALL 5 of us together! THey are wayyy past due! I love our family. We have 3 of the most amazing little girls that any parents could ask for!
Speaking of kids, as much as I looove our girls, sometimes I feel like Iv just reached my limit! Holli, our middle child, just seems so...out of control lately =((. It really makes me sad to see her being the only one misbehaving and getting in trouble and not getting the rewards and fun that the other two girls get. It makes me want to baby her more, but that does us no good when it comes to teaching her a lesson. In the past few weeks she has stolen toys from another childs house (actually hid them from me and brought them home with her). She hits her sisters when they arent doing what she wants. She is so bossy I dont know how to handle it. She rolls her eyes far too much, and it seems I have to tell her things ten times before she listens and when she does do as I tell her, it is always with an attitude. =((. Just yelling at her makes her cry...this I think she does on purpose. But then it makes it harder to get her to listen or understand what Im telling her when she is sobbing and screaming. I have tried having talks with her, I have tried the corner, I have tried smacking her hands, I dont bother smacking her butt--It does not phase her and wastes my energy. What to do, what to do? She is a beautiful, VERY smart little girl and only 4 years old, but her behavior toward ME and some other kids is just too much to handle sometimes. I have a very low patience level but I dont think that is the problem, she really is just gettin a little...out of control.
Anyway..on to the last thing on my mind for tonight... (I think). I am sooo ready to go back to school! I atleast want the general education courses under my belt so that when I decided what field I would like to go into I can get started! Having the girls and no extended family and being a military wife makes things a tad more difficult but..this is our life, this is the way its going to be. So these "excuses" are going to be worked around and I am GOING TO get it done! I want to be an example for my kids. Not that I see a problem with being a stay at home mom. I want the opportunity to be home with my girls and watch them grow and learn, help them with school and be here when they get off the bus, all those things that parents so often miss out on. & I loove my husband and appreciate him so much for allowing me that opportunity. I just want more for MYSELF. My husband provides very well for our family, but I could use something productive to do with my time and make something of myself for my family as well.
Now im sitting here staring at this gorgeous man next me and can no longer fight the urge to cuddle up in his arms and fall asleep =)[sigh* I love him]

The New Look.

I think I finally found a design that Im happy with =)) Yay!
Hopefully this one will last more than a few weeks. I have a horrible habit of changing it wayyy too much.
So the update--I am getting together with a wonderful group of ladies tomorrow! I am super excited about it! Some of the ones that I already love dearly, and some new ones thrown in the mix, and some that I thought I lost but things are better now. --Side note for Brittany--I am so glad things are better with all of us, you are pretty much amazing. You can always lift my spirits, no matter the situation. I want to thank you so much for that! You really are a sweet person =))
Enough of that mushy heart felt stuff =// hehe. I am so ready for this underway to be done with! Its only been a few weeks but it feels like a deployment all over again! Emails stinks. Its always down. & speaking of email..all I get ever get from him on a day to day basis is "I love you, I miss you, I cant wait to be home, Whatd you do today? How are the girls?" & those are wonderful because no matter how small the sentence my heart stops everytime his name comes up on my phone, but it feels like we are having the SAME conversation EVERYDAY. I even wrote him a big long note last night so he would be in a good mood this morning, and I did get a small reply out of it..but by tonight it was back to the same old usual boringness. =((.
I know there isnt a real solution to this problem & thank god we dont have this problem with actually communicating at home! haha.
Gosh, I miss him so much. Even when he is home, I see him for like 3 hours a day MAX..but thats so much better than weeks [or months] at a time. But thats the life we choose. All day today Iv been singing "I knew who he was when I took his name, but some how knowing just isnt the same, late at night." Boy if that isnt the truth! That song makes me so emotional but I love it =)

The BEST of the Best

When I first moved out here I had a couple of friends from back home whos hubbys were also in the Navy so things were sooo much easier! But as it does, the Navy took them away. =(( Since they were stationed elsewhere I had pretty much been alone except having Rashell (an amazing wife and friend), to talk to and vent to, but we rarely saw one another. Through Rashell I met...Sarah Lynn...=) & a few other wives along the way. Rashell has been a wonderful friend since day one. Shes the sweetest person Iv ever met, yet she can be "bitchy" with us girls when the time is right! Shes been a shoulder to cry on, a hand to hold, a vent for the anger and frustrations of Navy life, shes been everything Iv needed and always there when I need her! She has a wonderful hubby that my hubby gets along with great! HAving those two around has made a drastic change in my life. If she only know the times she has talked me through and the ways that she has helped me. She really has been a blessing!
Sarah has quickly became my best friend. We have only known each other a short time but it seems as though Iv always known her! The two of us have become close in a very short amount of time. This girl is really amazing. Shes always there when I need her, we talk about anything and everything like we have known each other from birth! She will listen to me ramble on and on about happy times, sad times, MAD times (Even if she is secretly laughing via facebook chat! =(( lol). She is really JUST what Iv needed and JUST in time! We are ..a perfect match & I think we can both agree that we were pretty much meant to be friends for life! =))
There have been some wives along the way that I have not felt the need to hang on to as much as these two, and some that I am just warming up to. But all in all Norfolk Navy Wives are a WONDERFUL group of women! Whether they are "my kind" of people or not, I hold a certain level of respect for them, becuase i know first hand what they go through, regardless of my feelings toward their personality or personal life, I believe that we all have enough troubles just being who we are and doing what we do, that I dont feel the need to take it any further than just not putting myself in the position to have to express my dislikes.
I dont know how I would handle this life we lead without these ladies! I love my husbad to death and he is my bestfriend, my confidant, my love, hes everything to me, but after all is said and done...He is still a guy. =/ haha. I love to have a little female companionship every now and then! Having friends out here has made a world of difference in my attitude, my day to day stresses, and really my whole outlook on the Navy Wife way of Life. Im not the type of girl who hangs out with a LARGE group of females. My reasoning..simply just because--everyone isnt always going to like everyone, and large groups mix the likables with the unlikables so people start talking and so on and so forth--and im sure guys do it too, but females just seem to stir the pot a little more I do believe! But we take the good with the bad and we move on, We are all just..who we are at the end of the day. No ones opinion should change that if we are happy with it ourselves.
I hate that my husband is gone as much as he is, it really puts a strain on our relationship, but Iv come to realize that we are stronger as a couple than ANYTHING the Navy can throw our way. Having these girls around has really improved our relationship tremendously. We have always had an amazing relationship we are both very honest and open with each other we can talk through anything I swear =)). He is amazing but sometimes this life gets to me as it does all of us, and of course he is on the other side of this life so he just...doesnt get it. & lord knows that trying to explain it to him is exhausting and useless! Of course he will listen and try his best to help and understand ...but its so much easier to have someone who knows first hand WHAT I MEAN!
Point of this blog being--I love these girls as much as I love some of my dearest and oldest friends! They have made HUGE change in ME and and My life. The Navy can be so stressful and take so much away from you as a person, and as a family, but it really has given us so much. We lead a very comfortable life, Our children have a great life and they dont want for a thing, we are by no means rich, but its a nice feeling knowing that we can provide the needs and some of the wants that they have. It has given me some of the greatest friends I wouldnt trade for the world. It has made me a better person by helping me to realize what is important in life, it has made me very proud of what my husband does. We have given up so much to be where we are, but we have Gained so much more!
Rashell & Sarah--The two of you have been the most wonderful part of this new life! I can honestly say that I dont know how I would make it through without you! Even when it comes down to Hair dryers and Sand buckets, you have never left my side! So many times friends stray and betray trust--I have never for a second thought that either of you are capable of ever hurting me. I put an enormous amount of trust in you as friends and fellow wives.
Now Im done pouring my heart out =)). I think its time for a new layout =))

Meeting Carr Wives..

Okay so Iv been going on and on about trying to meet some wives from my hubbys ship. I wanted to know some ladies from our ship just, for obvious reasons. I looked and looked last night to try and find some. Never did.
Today I am on a Navy wives group on FB and I see a girl who posts about being stationed in Norfolk. I respond with "Hi, we are in Norfolk as well' She IMs me, and we are talking. We soon find out that our Hubbys are on the same ship! I was soooo excited! I tried so hard to find some wives on the Carr, and so for me to just find one at random was super exciting. Then we start discussing whether we maybe know the others Hubby. This is where my luck just goes to hell. She tells me a story of how she moved to VA from NY to be with her now [x], While she was with her [x] she was introduced to her now Hubby, so after the [x] broke up with her, she started dating the man she is now married to. I was like wow thats cool. Well as we talk we discover that MY HUBBY is her [X]. SERIOUSLY!!!! How effin bad can my luck get?! I was sooo excited to find a wife on our ship, and the ONE that I do happen to come across is his [X]! Well we keep talking and she tells me he broke up with her January of 09' after he came back from Leave. Hmmmm, Now this is INTERESTING ladies, because as you see at the top of this lovely blog, we started dating DECEMBER 26 of 08. And this LEAVE she is saying he took before he broke up with her...WAS TO INDIANA...TO MY HOUSE...
UGHHHH
So I talk to the Hubby, he says they broke it off in Oct. Well before he met me but remained friends. She says she is very happy to be with her hubby and thankful that David introduced them. He says she is slightly crazy but isnt sure why she thinks they were together in January. UGHHH...what to think what to think. I love this man, I have complete trust in him. I dont know this girl, I dont know her motives, soooo I go with what I believe I should and Trust in him. Riiiight?

Being Useful

So here's the deal, Every now and then I start to feel like..I could be more useful!
I love being a Navy Wife (Fiance), I love getting to be home with my kids, I love having the time to be there for the other wives and be a part of our "support group". I would also love to feel like I am doing something on a daily basis. I cook, I clean, I do all of my wife and mommy duties, but...what else could I be doing..?

The Beginning...

Hello all, My name is Alisheau. I am engaged to an amazing man named David. He is currently a Petty Officer 1st Class in the United States Navy. I never understood the military life until I fell for this man. Now a days my life is like a fairy tale. He is my prince, and Im his Cinderella. ((except that Cinderellas Prince never got deployed))..

David & I met...by fate, by chance, maybe destiny. We were living in 2 different states, 800 Miles apart. If ever I had a doubt that we were meant to be, I would just think back to how perfectly everything fell together for us and know, He's my soulmate

A very good friend of mine, my roommate at the time, decided that she wanted to get back with her [x], who was in the Navy, stationed at Norfolk Naval. In August of 08 she moved out of our house and made the long trip from Indiana to Virginia to be with the [x]. He soon deployed and my friend was left in Virginia, as so many of us start out, alone. My friend came home to Indiana for the Thanksgiving and Christmas Holidays of 08. She stayed with me most of the time, and we joked a lot that I should pack up my things and run away to Virgnina with her. She told me her then bf had introduced her to a friend of his and that he would be perfect for me. I of course said, "You're Crazy". She gave me his number, and gave mine to him. We started out with a just a few long phone conversations, then started the texting day in and day out. We talked for hours about any and everything. Never in my life, before him, had I felt like I missed someone so much that I had never even met. In December of 08' David took New Years leave and called to tell me he decided to drive to Indiana during leave and meet me. ((We also made plans for him to take my friend back to Virginia with him, so she didnt have to fly home with all of her daughters new christmas presents)) My heart sank into my stomach, I was so excited. I tried to control it over the phone of course, but I think we both knew the other was incredibly nervous, excited, etc. I will never forget December 26, 2008. He was truely the GREATEST Christmas present a girl could ever get.

I had my reservations about packing up my life, and 2 kids, to move 800 miles away from the ONLY place I had ever called home, but from the moment I met him, I knew I couldnt live apart from him((& he agreed =))).

I moved to Virginia in Febuary of 09' and stayed with my friend while David was underway. When he got back we got a place together, let things settle down and then my kids came from their fathers to be with us in Virginia. David deployed in April of 09'.

I admit, our relationship was rushed, crazy, spur of the moment, dive right in. We put an ENORMOUS amount of faith and trust in one another from the VERY beginning. Looking back I wouldnt change a thing. The timing, the place, the people, it was all perfect.